Friday, March 28, 2008

How to COPE

One of the biggest tips I have for anyone reading this who also might be an ADD housewife, is to keep your goals small. Don't try to do it all in one day. You don't have to. In fact, you're probably the only one who expects it!

My husband, bless his heart, says I just have to keep the house clean enough that child services doesn't become involved. Having known people who have actually had child services involved in their housekeeping, that standard isn't actually very high. The floor is cleared, dishes are clean, and the trash is taken out. It doesn't address the neatly organized piles.

Oh yes, the piles of piles. That is my downfall! Since I was small, I knew the content of every stack of stuff in my room. No one else could tell there was a method to my madness! But I knew.

Shortly after my first child was born, I bought a book titled something along the lines of Clutter Control. I checked amazon and there are approximately three pages of books with similar titles. Not very helpful in giving you a link. One of the big tips with this book was to eliminate your clutter hot spots. Brilliant! If I don't have a place to put the clutter, it won't accumulate there!

We ended up getting rid of our kitchen table. We never ate at it anyway because it was a repository for all this stuff. We also got rid of the baby crib because it really was nothing more than a giant laundry basket since we co-slept.

What I learned from this is clutter migrates. Eliminating the storage means does not eliminate the clutter.

Confession: I feel guilty for throwing things away. I grew up extremely poor. Everything had to be used until it was practically dead, and even then, we tried to find another use for it. Here's my thought process: Junk mail could make really good paper airplanes! Eventually I'll get around to shredding things for packing material if we move! I spent money on that...I can't just give it away! That's like giving away money!

The struggle is changing the thinking process. We're not poor. We're not rich either. But it's ok to let things go. We got a storage unit. We placed things in it more than a year ago. If I've needed something out of storage, I went to get it. I'd say 90 percent of what we have in there, we haven't missed and probably forgot we owned. One day soon, we're going to the storage unit and loading up the van and taking things to charity. I'll go through boxes looking for documents and important papers, pictures, but all of that stuff needs to go!

Changing the thinking at home is a bit more difficult. I have to deal with things immediately instead of being distracted by fun things...like blogging. One project at a time.

I'm still planning on tackling my scrapbook supplies today. I'm going to a crop tomorrow so I do need to have those things organized.

Other than that, I'm working on just keeping things tidy today.

2 comments:

  1. I was just getting ready to suggest, Micki, to change that mindset - until I read those exact words. Heehee. You don't have to change it to "unreasonable" either - just within reason. Like, the example you gave of keeping potential packing material around *in case* you move. Well, that would make good sense and would not be wasteful IF you were actually moving in the next few days/weeks.

    I find that the "emotional weight" of clutter is almost as much of a pain in my neck than the "physical" existence of the clutter. Kwim?

    Also, I read down a bit and you mentioned popping a couple of Tylenol for a migraine - have you ever tried Children's Motrin? Ronnie & I use ONLY that now, for headaches, because it nips them so quickly! And I get migraines too - so far with Children's Motrin, there hasn't been one which it hasn't helped take away. :)

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  2. I hadn't tried the children's motrin. I actually don't usually keep children's pain reliever/fever reducer around. If I can remember to buy it, I may try it LOL

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